After Jill Duggar Dillard, 29, married her husband Derick Dillard, 31, in 2014, the couple – now mother and father of two – stunned followers of TLC’s 19 Kids and Counting and Counting On by changing into the primary members of the Duggar household to insurgent.
Jill and Derick spoke out in opposition to a number of the guidelines set by Jill’s mother and father, Jim-Bob and Michelle Duggar, and their remedy throughout their time on TLC. From sending their older son to public college and ingesting alcohol now and again to even utilizing contraception, they made it clear that they deliberate to make their very own approach in life slightly than adhering to the standard Duggar tips.
Eventually, the couple left the world of actuality TV behind. They’re presently estranged from a lot of the Duggar household as a result. In a latest YouTube Q&A session, the previous Counting On stars revealed that one facet of their courtship, which performed out on 19 Kids and Counting, was faked for the cameras.
Jill and Derick revealed that Thanksgiving was particularly vital to them
In their new YouTube video, Derick and Jill answered followers’ questions on their courtship, their Thanksgiving plans, and extra.
The couple, who’re presently elevating sons Israel and Samuel, defined that Thanksgiving was a really special occasion for them – not solely due to household togetherness, however as a result of it was the primary vacation they ever celebrated collectively as a pair.
Jill first visited Derick in Nepal, the place he was doing mission work on the time, in 2013. After spending loads of high quality time attending to know one another, they cooked a Thanksgiving feast collectively. They’ve at all times remembered that as a particular time of their lives and their relationship, in order that they make certain to place an emphasis on the vacation annually.
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The former TLC stars revealed that their section on the present was deceptive
But, the previous Counting On stars identified, that may not be how 19 Kids and Counting followers remembered their courtship. TLC filmed what seemed like Jill and Derick’s ultimate goodbye (earlier than Jill returned to the U.S.) throughout that first journey – and their first Thanksgiving collectively wasn’t proven.
Derick defined, “Once all the filming was done and we recorded our ‘goodbye,’ [Jill] stayed another week, and we had Thanksgiving together.” Jill reduce in to clarify that many 19 Kids and Counting followers in all probability didn’t even know that, until they learn their Dillard household weblog and figured it out.
The ultimate farewell that aired on 19 Kids and Counting, Derick revealed, wasn’t “final” in any respect. In truth, Jill simply turned proper again round in a taxi after they stated goodbye for the good thing about the cameras. Spending the following week collectively with none cameras or crew members round, they defined, was particularly significant for them. This was after they actually grew nearer as a pair.
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The couple admitted there have been in all probability ‘misconceptions’ about their courtship
This isn’t the primary time that Jill and Derick have pushed again in opposition to the narrative about them that was introduced on the Duggars’ actuality reveals. In the identical Q&A session, Jill argued that misconceptions about their courtship had been in all probability frequent amongst viewers.
The former Counting On star and mother of two felt her courtship with Derick was “definitely a little bit more played up for the show,” particularly as a result of she was the primary Duggar daughter to courtroom. In actual life, she didn’t assume issues had been “as weird” and sensationalized as they could have appeared on TV.
For instance, whereas the present might need made it appear as if Derick and Jill had by no means spoken to one another one-one-one earlier than getting married, that wasn’t true in any respect. The couple revealed that Jim-Bob and Michelle weren’t listening in on, and even house throughout, their first two video chats, which had been 5 and 6 hours apiece.
Derick and Jill defined additional that they set their very own courting requirements and guidelines when it got here to touching, kissing, and intercourse. While they had been “highly encouraged” by their mother and father to take action, the couple stated they probably would have set these boundaries anyway.
“We weren’t given rules like, ‘Here’s what you can and can’t do,’” Derick stated. “We set those ourselves.”
The former Counting On stars additionally revealed that they didn’t name frequently name their relationship a “courtship.” Instead, in non-public, they most well-liked to confer with their model of courting as “dating with a purpose.” This merely meant that they had been courting with the aim of heading towards engagement and marriage, slightly than simply having a fling for enjoyable with no finish objective in thoughts.