‘Counting On’: Jill and Derick Dillard Reveal What They Would Have Changed About Their Courtship

by Jeremy Spirogis
Jill Duggar Dillard and Derick Dillard

When Jill Duggar Dillard and Derick Dillard, previously of TLC’s Counting On, tied the knot in 2014, most followers of the Duggar household thought they’d stick with Jim-Bob and Michelle Duggar’s guidelines to a T. But after having two sons, Jill and Derick have drifted away and ventured off on their very own over time.

19 Kids and Counting and Counting On followers started to note that Jill wasn’t toeing the Duggar get together line – what with ingesting alcohol, sporting a nostril ring, sporting pants, and sending her older son to public faculty. What’s extra, Derick, who’s now in legislation faculty on the University of Arkansas, took to social media to say that he and his spouse really needed to sue TLC to receives a commission for his or her time on the present.

In a collection of frank Q&A classes on YouTube, Derick and Jill have been simple about how they differ from the remainder of the Duggar household. Most just lately, they answered followers’ questions on their courtship – and their solutions have been greater than just a little illuminating.

Jill Duggar Dillard and Derick Dillard
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Jill stated there might need been ‘misconceptions’ about her courtship because of the present’s portrayal

In their new YouTube video, Jill and Derick answered a typical fan query about their courtship. Counting On followers needed to understand how they may have approached their courtship in another way if they might return – and what they thought concerning the idea of courtship, versus courting, today.

Jill, now 29 years previous, began by admitting that she didn’t really feel her courtship with 31-year-old Derick was portrayed precisely on TLC (at the very least not fully). She hinted that some elements of their “getting to know each other” interval have been exaggerated for the needs of drama and sensationalism.

“I feel like maybe there were some misconceptions about our courtship, because it was definitely a little bit more played up for the show,” Jill stated. “Things maybe weren’t as weird as they seemed.”

By method of instance, Jill defined that, though her mother and father had “encouraged” them to make guidelines about touching and modesty earlier than marriage, she and Derick set these requirements themselves. Derick agreed, explaining that the couple wasn’t given an inventory of guidelines that they needed to comply with or else – as it might have appeared to Counting On followers.

Jill defined additional that their mother and father weren’t on all of their Skype calls and didn’t frequently take note of their group texts. In truth, Derick and Jill had two video calls, totaling 11 hours, earlier than they determined to enter a courtship – and Jill’s mother and father weren’t even at dwelling throughout both of them.

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Derick wasn’t a fan of the phrase ‘courtship’

While the couple’s courtship may not have been as extraordinarily strict as some 19 Kids and Counting and Counting On followers believed, Derick admitted that he wasn’t a giant fan of the phrase “courtship” normally.

Jill’s mother and father referred to the form of supervised courting they most well-liked as “courtships” as a result of they have been explicitly meant to information a pair towards marriage. But Derick had solely heard the phrase earlier than from his grandfather, and he perceived it as old style and overly retro.

“One thing we might do differently is call it a courtship, just because that has a certain archaic feel to it,” Derick stated of what he might need modified about his early relationship with Jill. “Not that everything old is bad, but it just evokes these ideas of strange things.”

For Jill, the notion was “less weird,” as a result of she grew up listening to the world lots. “I didn’t think it was as weird,” the mother of two stated.

Still, Derick and Jill revealed that they primarily used the phrase “courtship” when filming for TLC. Privately, they most well-liked to consult with their relationship as “dating with a purpose.”

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The ‘Counting On’ stars stated they may have held arms earlier of their courtship

As for what else they may have modified about their courtship, Derick stated he would have most well-liked to carry arms along with his spouse earlier on. The couple waited till their engagement to carry arms, and now he thought that was far too strict.

“That might have actually been something we could have done differently,” the previous Counting On star mused. “I was 25 when I got engaged.”

“I don’t know why I wasn’t holding your hand already,” Derick stated, turning to his spouse. “My bad.”

Derick defined additional that Jill’s mother and father might need “highly encouraged” the strict guidelines as a result of she was the primary Duggar daughter to undergo a courtship.

But Jill informed her husband that she didn’t assume earlier hand-holding would have flown with Jim-Bob.

“No, you would have had to clear it with my dad,” she informed a shocked Derick. “You totally would have.”

Jill’s husband appeared to bristle a bit on the information, hinting that he would have most well-liked to make that call himself alongside his bride-to-be.

“I just now found that out,” he stated, questioning: “What if I just held your hand and said, ‘it’s OK, trust me?’”

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The couple admitted they may have looser guidelines for their very own kids’s love lives

As for a way their strategy to courtship would possibly change sooner or later, Derick and Jill stated they may have much less “parental oversight” with their very own kids.

“There’s some things in leaving and cleaving as a couple and starting your own family…there’s certain things you want to accept from your family background and some things you might want to reject,” Derick defined. And some concepts, he added, could possibly be “recycled” – as in, borrowed and altered barely to suit the tradition of the brand new couple or household.

Jill agreed, saying, “[Parental involvement] might look different in our own family.”

Of course, the previous Counting On stars defined that the extent of management they anticipated to have over their children’ love lives would range relying on their age and stage of independence. They may not give “unsolicited advice” on courting to a 24-year-old who was residing on their very own, whereas a 16-year-old nonetheless residing at dwelling and counting on them financially can be anticipated to comply with extra guidelines.

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