‘Grey’s Anatomy’: Why Ellen Pompeo Doesn’t Find Meredith’s ‘Pick Me, Choose Me, Love Me’ Speech Empowering

by Jeremy Spirogis
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For years, Grey’s Anatomy followers have discovered Meredith Grey’s (Ellen Pompeo) power inspiring. The award-winning normal surgeon and single mom proved time and time once more she is the solar of her personal story. But even so, viewers could not have recognized the character was headed in that path when the Shondaland sequence started in 2005. And lately, Pompeo revealed she didn’t discover Meredith’s iconic “pick me, choose me, love me” speech empowering. However, it’s evident the present has grown over the previous 15 years.

Meredith Grey’s ‘pick me, choose me, love me’ speech on ‘Grey’s Anatomy’

Ellen Pompeo as Meredith Grey on 'Grey's Anatomy' - Season Sixteen
Ellen Pompeo as Meredith Grey on ‘Grey’s Anatomy’ | Gilles Mingasson/ABC through Getty Images

In Grey’s Anatomy Season 2, Episode 5 — titled “Bring the Pain” — Derek Shepherd (Patrick Dempsey) is struggling to decide on between his intern, Meredith, and his spouse, Addison Montgomery (Kate Walsh). Then on the finish of the episode, Meredith — who isn’t precisely the romantic sort — tells Derek to select her. She says: 

I lied, I’m not out of this relationship. I’m in. I’m so in it’s humiliating as a result of right here I’m begging. OK, right here it’s. Your alternative. It’s easy. Her or me. And I’m positive she’s actually nice. But Derek, I like you. In a very, actually huge faux to love your style in music, allow you to eat the final piece of cheesecake, maintain a radio over my head outdoors your window, unlucky means that makes me hate you, love you. So choose me, select me, love me. 

Meredith then tells Derek to fulfill her at Joe’s Bar if he chooses to divorce Addison. He by no means exhibits. 

Ellen Pompeo discusses the expansion of Meredith Grey on ‘Grey’s Anatomy’

Of course, Grey’s Anatomy followers know Derek and Meredith finally fall in love and begin an epic romance earlier than his demise in season 11. But regardless, Meredith’s “pick me, choose me, love me” speech was hailed as one of many many romantic moments of the sequence. Then in an interview with Variety from April 2020, Pompeo shared why it wasn’t.

When the publication requested whether or not the actor noticed Meredith as a robust feminist in the beginning of Grey’s Anatomy in 2005, Pompeo defined the character stood out from different roles on the time.

“I did recognize that the film roles that I was being offered at the time were all the girlfriends and sort of just the chick in the movie with not a lot to do,” she stated. “And [when] I read the pilot, I did recognize, ‘Wow, this is a female lead — with a career.’ I wasn’t seeing many of those parts, so I did recognize that.”

However, Pompeo didn’t at all times see Meredith because the empowering girl she is today, significantly when she begged Derek to like her.

“Her journey to becoming powerful was not really so obvious to me,” Pompeo stated. “I have a different perspective, and maybe people see the beginning of the show as more empowering than I did. But that, ‘Pick me, choose me, love me’ [line]; I was like, ‘Why am I begging a man to love me?’ To me, that’s not empowering.”

Nevertheless, Pompeo acknowledged how a lot development Meredith has gone by on Grey’s Anatomy

“With television shows specifically, they don’t really know where they’re going,” Pompeo stated. “Shonda [Rhimes] positively had an concept for characters they usually need to have some kind of arcs. But I believe {that a} present that runs for so long as Grey’s, the present has needed to develop with the characters.”

She continued: “I’m 15 years older now, so I’m a lot stronger an individual than I used to be then. It simply evolves. The writers get to know you, they watch the dailies they usually watch the present. Grey’s is so distinctive, as a result of we’ve been on the air for thus lengthy, they’ve all watched me develop up. Shonda and the writers, we’ve all grown up collectively.”

Whether or not you discover Meredith’s speech empowering, the Grey’s Anatomy character has definitely grown into somebody value aspiring to. And now we sit up for watching Meredith proceed her journey because the Shondaland sequence nears its 17th season. So keep tuned.

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