‘I Love Lucy’: Lucille Ball Said She and Desi Arnaz ‘Never Really Liked Each Other’

by Jeremy Spirogis
Lucille Ball and Desi Arnaz

I Love Lucy star Lucille Ball had a rocky marriage to Desi Arnaz. She made a shocking revelation that she and Arnaz “never really liked each other.” Here’s what she mentioned concerning the disintegration of their 20-year marriage.

Lucille Ball mentioned she would cry for hours

Lucille Ball and Desi Arnaz | Archive Photos/Getty Images
Lucille Ball and Desi Arnaz | Archive Photos/Getty Images

In her ebook Love Lucy, Ball mentioned issues acquired so dangerous between her and Arnaz that she would cry for hours. Sometimes her eyes can be crimson from crying throughout her scenes on I Love Lucy. She mentioned she felt “hatred” for Arnaz, and it was starting to have an effect on her bodily and emotionally.

“In one of our last shows I played a geisha girl,” wrote Ball. “My face was covered with white powder. My eyes were red from hours of weeping. Whenever I looked at Desi, I could feel my expression hardening. Cold, implacable hate oozed through every pore, for Desi, and for myself too. I loathed my new self, but I couldn’t bring myself to ask Desi for a divorce. He had to be the one to make the break.”

Lucille Ball mentioned she and Desi Arnaz didn’t like one another

Lucille Ball and Desi Arnaz in 1955 | Archive Photos/Getty ImagesLucille Ball and Desi Arnaz in 1955 | Archive Photos/Getty Images
Lucille Ball and Desi Arnaz in 1955 | Archive Photos/Getty Images

Ball mentioned she realized she and Arnaz had been by no means keen on one another. Although that they had a bodily attraction, they didn’t like one another as people. “I realized we never really liked each other,” wrote Ball. “We had a great attraction going for each other in the beginning, but we didn’t approve of each other.”

There was a disconnect when it got here to how they most popular to stay their lives, in keeping with Ball. She mentioned she tended to be conservative whereas Arnaz leaned towards indulgence. “He disapproved of my moderation and my conservatism,” wrote Ball. “I was square, he said. I disapproved of the way he worked too hard, played too hard, and was never moderate in anything. It was like living on top of a volcano; you never knew when it would erupt or why.”

Desi Arnaz requested Lucille Ball for a divorce

Ball mentioned she had a tricky time asking for a divorce. The couple tried a number of occasions previously to divorce, however that they had many false begins. Arnaz determined to ask Ball for a divorce not lengthy after the episode the place Ball appeared as a geisha lady.

“I had a lawyer in his office in 20 minutes,” wrote Ball. “The day I filed for the divorce, on grounds of ‘extreme mental cruelty’—March 3, 1960—we were filming an hour show with Ernie Kovacs and his wife, Edie Adams. In the episode, Lucy tries to get Ricky on Ernie’s TV show. To disguise myself, I wore a chauffeur’s uniform with cap and mustache.”

Ball mentioned the ultimate scene was troublesome for them. They had been so distraught concerning the divorce that they had been overcome with emotion as soon as they completed filming. “In the final scene, Desi was supposed to pull me into an embrace, mustache and all, and kiss me,” wrote Ball. “When the scene arrived and the cameras closed in for that final embrace, we just looked at each other, and then Desi kissed me, and we both cried. It marked the end of so many things.”

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