‘Sister Wives’: Meri and Kody Brown’s Therapist Calls Them Both ‘Exceptionally Controlling People’

by Jeremy Spirogis
Janelle Brown, Meri Brown, Kody Brown and Christine Brown

Fans of TLC’s Sister Wives have been watching Meri and Kody Brown’s marriage deteriorate for a number of seasons.

Both Kody and his first spouse have appeared guarded and standoffish as they struggled by way of a number of main rifts of their relationship—like a authorized divorce in 2014 (so Kody may undertake his fourth spouse Robyn Brown’s youngsters from a earlier marriage), tough discussions about infertility, and a catfishing scandal in 2015, through which Meri flirted with a girl posing as a person on-line.

On the Apr. 5 episode of Sister Wives, “Baby Steps,” Meri and Kody tried finally to handle their marital points head-on with a counseling session in Las Vegas with Nancy Hunterton, their marriage therapist. The therapist warned the couple that their controlling natures may forestall them from being susceptible with one another and constructing their relationship.

Janelle Brown, Meri Brown, Kody Brown and Christine Brown
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Meri and Kody opened up about their failing marriage in a remedy session

Although Meri and Kody didn’t appear to see eye to eye on many
issues throughout their counseling session, they agreed on at the least one factor:
Their relationship, as that they had identified it so far, was over.

“The relationship between he and I is gone. It’s lifeless. It’s
over,” Meri mentioned definitively. The Sister Wives stars agreed that something
transferring ahead must be “something new.”

Meanwhile, Nancy referred to as each Kody and Meri out for not placing forth sufficient effort to enhance their marriage. The marriage therapist urged that Meri’s guardedness and emotional reactions to confrontations had in all probability led to a few of her breakdowns in communication along with her husband.

“Your stage of sensitivity and reactivity has been so nice
that attending to the deeper stuff…has been tough,” Nancy informed Meri.

As for Kody, Nancy pushed again on his insistence that he wasn’t keen to listen to any criticism of his position within the breakdown of his marriage to Meri—at the least not proper now. “I don’t think I’m up for any criticism,” Kody admitted. “Are you serious?” Nancy requested incredulously, warning him that that may halt any progress the couple may need made.

“In this relationship, it’s gotten to the point where I’m just done hearing how I am wrong,” the Sister Wives patriarch defined.

Kody mentioned he had tried to ‘rescue’ Meri and ‘be her Jesus’

Kody elaborated additional on his sophisticated relationship historical past together with his first spouse, claiming that their previous had made him really feel “deceived” and emotionally “unsafe.”

When confronted with confrontation or criticism, Kody claimed of
Meri, “She goes completely into victim mode.”

“I will admit that,” Meri acknowledged, including that she usually felt she needed to defend herself from damage inside her marriage in addition to throughout the bigger Brown household.

Meri’s alleged tendency to tackle a sufferer position, Kody
claimed, had made him really feel chargeable for her emotional welfare over the
years. The dad of 18 mentioned he had generally felt like he wanted to “save” Meri,
however he ultimately burned out.

“I cannot be her Jesus. I tried doing that for years…I got a rescue complex,” the Sister Wives patriarch exclaimed. “All I’m trying to point out here is, it’s just exhausting sometimes.”

Nancy warned Kody and Meri about their equally ‘controlling’ natures

During the counseling session, it grew to become clear that each
Kody and Meri didn’t see the opposite as attempting very arduous to enhance their relationship.

“Neither of us is being keen to see what the opposite individual
is doing,” Meri admitted when, throughout a written train from Nancy, they each
struggled to give you one thing constructive to say concerning the different.

Kody, too, confessed that he had poisonous tendencies when it got here to conflicts with Meri. He admitted that he usually walked away from arguments moderately than participating with individuals in confrontations, and appeared to trace that he knew this was an influence play on his finish. “It’s the big ‘screw you.’ It’s the big final say because I am walking away,” the Sister Wives star defined.

Nancy had her personal tackle the couple’s ongoing disconnect. “From
my notion, you’re each exceptionally controlling individuals,” she informed Meri
and Kody.

Turning to Kody, Nancy mentioned, “I’ve by no means seen you not get
your manner in a big choice.” She used the household’s latest transfer to
Flagstaff for example of how he usually pushed his will onto his massive household,
together with all 4 of his wives.

But Meri, too, was controlling in Nancy’s eyes. “I see you
as extremely controlling in a protecting sense,” the therapist informed Kody’s first

Meri truly agreed with Nancy’s evaluation of her, saying that she usually felt she needed to keep guarded to guard her feelings and the feelings of these she cherished. “I’m very controlling to protect my environment, to protect me, to protect people that I love,” the Sister Wives star mentioned.

Given the trait that they had in widespread, Nancy thought it may
function an icebreaker. Since Kody and Meri each admitted they generally struggled
to know what to speak about—with out both sticking to small discuss and brushing
apart something extra severe, or arguing concerning the previous—their therapist had a
distinctive suggestion. “If you two went to dinner and also you simply took the topic of
management,” she ventured, “you might have a start.”

While the polygamist couple’s deeper points clearly couldn’t
be solved in a single session, Kody was grateful for the chance to attempt to
work issues out together with his first spouse. “This was actually productive for me…I hope
Meri is getting one thing out of it too,” he informed TLC producers.

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